“Leaders have great things happen to them because of how they manage to act when things are not fair” Andy Andrews
Most of us are conditioned to respond with outrage and indignant self-defense when life doesn’t treat us “fair”. Our sense of justice is upset and we deserve better.
But how you respond when life isn’t fair is one of the defining moments of your life, and leadership. How can we have a mindset that allows us to not mope or drag our heads when things go wrong, but instead learn, encourage and bless others in the midst of tough times/
Here are keys to a overcoming mindset:
Be careful what you “deserve”. How often have I heard myself say I deserve something, only to know deep down that not only am I not entitled to it, but that I actually deserve much, much worse? Too often I’m afraid. Many of us tend to feel entitled to a constant win streak, undying devotion and regularly doses of praise and appreciation. Instead, have a mindset that says you are a servant, ready to carry a burden for those you love and care for. This is what Jesus recommended we do as leaders, serve others and put others first. I can’t think of a better example
Know your season. Everyone goes through a “prince to pig” cycle, as former GE CEO Jack Welch used to call it. One day you’re the prince who can do no wrong, the next you’re a pig that is ruining the organization. Public opinion is fickle and knowing that there are seasons of life is so important. Things will turn and soon you’ll have the wind at your back again.
Stay focused. When I’m discouraged I work hard to stay focused on the positive, to keep looking for good things that are happening. Some days this is admittedly very difficult, but it helps to keep you from buying into a full blown depression and pity party.
Healthy people. Seems like negative people love to hear about your problems, and thus help to blow them up to even bigger proportion, reinforcing how unfair things have been. Healthy people listen, give assurance and build you up, but they don’t necessarily validate your pity party. Hang out with healthy, happy people who have a bigger perspective on life and how you are impacting others.
Are there other ways to fight back when life isn’t fair? Share them with me.
David Curry
