Statistics show that most people fear change. Is it that we don’t know the future? Maybe. Is it that we fear loss of control? That’s definitely part of it. Often times it can be hard to identify exactly what it is that is holding us back and making us fearful about change.
The best explaination I’ve heard of why we fear change is this: We fear an irreversible negative outcome.
Most often this fear is groundless, yet it holds many individuals, leaders, organizations, and families held in status quo- not making any positive changes for fear that something will go wrong, something that they cannot escape.
Here’s a few ideas on fighting this fear:
Think through the options: What could go wrong if you make the change you are thinking of making. Be honest, but be thorough, listing all the things that might actually go horrible. How many of those things are truly irreversible? Very few. You might look at your list and say, “They’re all irreversible.” If you are in that category, you’re not yet being honest about what might go wrong, because most mistakes can be corrected.
Consider Lost Opportunities: What opportunities and blessings are you missing because you are stuck by fear? You are making choices by standing pat, acknowledge that and know what the lost benefits might be.
Take small steps: Usually decisions can be made in small steps. You don’t have to quit your job right now, but you can accept an opportunity to interview. You don’t have to move your kids, but you can go look at that school you are considering. You don’t have to commit to that new responsibility right away, but you can talk to others and gather more information on what might be beneficial about it. Take small steps.
What are you learning about fear in your life? What negative thoughts sometimes hold you back? Let me know and give me feedback on this blog.
David Curry
